Situation 1- I am speaking to someone about making a work arrangement that may be beneficial to both her and me (more her, but that's neither here nor there). I say to her "Is this something that you would want to do?" Her response- "Maria, I think I could be the bigger person in this situation and do it."
Analysis- Hmmmm. I'm sorry, but saying that you are the bigger person technically makes you the smaller person, by definition. (sigh)
Analysis- Say whaaaaaat? Who says that? I had no idea that the acquisition of a PhD makes one better than all of their non-PhD pursuing "friends." Besides, why on Earth, even if you were thinking those demented thoughts, would you ever say that to ME? I also do not possess a PhD.
Situation 3 (the last one because writing these is making me lose faith in the world)- Someone and myself are gathering shared clothing and sorting out whose is whose. Harmless, right? Wrong. She pulls out a coat and says "This one MUST be yours. It smells awful." It should be said that she then kept right on talking about previous things and light-hearted topics as if nothing had been said.
Analysis- Excuse me? I was so stunned by her statement, that no response actually came out. Where do I even begin? I guess I could start by pointing out the fact that the garment in question was actually hers...which I politely did NOT mention...because that would be rude.
What do all of these situations have in common? Udder sadness, people. Udder sadness....
As any good researcher, I will now leave you with practical tips for future protocol:
1) If you call a business and desire their services, please do not tell them that the only reason you are calling is because someone else turned you down or was booked. Nobody likes to be 2nd choice.
2) If you see someone in a lab coat, please refrain from telling them your doctor horror stories or that you went to the bathroom to find your guts sitting in the toilet. Also, please fight the urge to ask them crazy questions like "You a coochie doctor?" or "Do you want to see the crust under my breast?" Not all who wear lab coats are doctors, and not all doctors want to hear such ridiculousness.
3) Social filters are a good thing. Please pick one up if you were not fortunate enough to be born with one...or lost it on the bus in grade school.
4) If I introduce myself to you as Maria, please do not reply with "I once knew a Mexican when I was in school" or "Do you speak Hispanic?" Neither are appropriate.
Remember folks, every conversation needs a hero. Be the hero, not the slimy villain.
